Love yourself first.
Love yourself first.
I met my first love at 17. It turned out into a 6 year relationship that taught me how to truly love someone but most importantly that it was even more important to love yourself. Allow me to explain.
Listening to your inner voice 👂
I was so focused on being the perfect girlfriend that I simply forgot to check if my needs were met.
I was constantly doubting my relationship and was disappointed quite often. At that time, I didn’t know that these emotions were signals. Every moment of doubts about my relationship was my inner voice trying to tell me to LEAVE. I used to pray for the Universe to give me signs whether to leave my relationship or not. All this time my brain was giving me the signs I was asking for. It’s funny how sometimes you ask for answers you already have.
Unconditional love 💞
What made me stay this long in this relationship was that I was convincing myself that true love comes with pain and disappointments. I was so focused on loving him despite his mistakes and poor behaviors that I experienced what we call unconditional love. Don’t get me wrong, unconditional love is amazing. « Why tho? » you may ask…
Simply because you deeply love the person for who she/he is, meaning you are capable of investing yourself, sharing kind words, taking care of her/his needs etc EVEN when you’re not receiving the energy that makes you actually want to do all that stuff. Despite poor behaviors you want your partner to be happy and you’re ready to do whatever it takes.
Unconditional love is great when you’ve found your soulmate because if you want to give your love without limitations you have to be sure it will be well received and highly valued, otherwise it can be pretty risky.
Love, being the highest frequency it is important to give it to someone that can reflect it instead of just absorbing it.
Love yourself first 👩
I broke up because I realised that I deserved to be with someone that puts the same energy as me in a relationship. I know there’s someone somewhere willing to make me happy, not just with words but with actions.
Every big positive life changing decision always comes from realising your worth or/and putting yourself first.
I think that for a lot of people, relationships are distractions to run away from fears, insecurities or boredom.
I think when you’re giving yourself the love and attention you need, you no longer feel the urge to jump into a new relationship. Lack of attention often lead to poor decisions in terms of relationships. Before even considering a new fling, make sure you have no emotional void you need to fill.
As I’m getting older, I realise that love is very important for me. I have a lot of love to give and a burning desire to find someone my heart could connect with. However, I understand now that the quest of love is a journey that first start with yourself.
Hope you enjoyed this 2nd blog post in English !
Take care !